Punishment & Discipline

As I wrote before I don't like lists of rules and don't like to constantly spank my hubby. I do

however demand a measure of respect from him towards me (a bit more then in a normal
relationship). This means if I tell him to do something (whether it is by calling him by his slave
name or normal) I expect him to do it. I also expect him to be kind and caring towards me and not
contradict me or be grumpy towards me.

Any form of anger is of course out of the question. I resort to simple means of punishment that can be done with a minimal amount of effort from my side. When I notice arrogant behavior or when he forgot his place in our relationship I simply tell him to kneel in front of me and slap him in the face with the palm of my hand. I then explain to him what he did wrong. I expect him to apologize and afterwards tell him to get up and be on his way. This has proven to be an effective way to get the kind of behavior I want from my husband withoutresorting to extreme measures and it feels good as well vent your frustration like this once in a while. In public a good pull on his ear will certainly get his attention.

If my hubby is grumpy and acts on it or in some way pissed me off he goes to his cage (naked). We have one of those easy fold up dog cages that I can position where ever I want it to be. Usually it's
in the attic but in summer I sometimes tell him to set it up outside. If I cage him outside however I make sure to cover the cage with a blanket as our neighbors should not be bothered with our lifestyle. Caging is another easy way to fulfill your partners' submissive feelings without it costing a lot of energy on your part. Based on the severity of his behavior I leave him in there for between 1 and 6 hours usually. It gives him time to think about how he acted or what he done and cool down.

The cage isn't big enough to sleep in so I let him build another, bigger, cage (more like a box) in our garden shed for the occasional day I want to sleep alone or want to entertain a friend without him present. From the outside it looks like an ordinary cabinet for storage. If your partner has shouted at your or, god forbid, called you names, the cane comes in. Lock him up in his cage and once your own fury has subsided tie him down as you did with the initiation. How often you will hit him depends on how much he enraged or hurt you. somewhere around 100 hits around the butt area should usually suffice. However my husband once got the courage to call the B-word and I made sure to not stop until I drew blood on his butt. He cried but he deserved it and has never since called me like that a nymore. Rememberthat this is a punishment, not some kind of sexy play time.

I never wear any of the leather or rubber cloths you always see dominant women wearing in porn by the way! My every day cloths are just fine and when we do a scene or have some planned playtime I simply wear a sexy dress or some lingerie.