Question from reader S - How to deal with a cocky slave

Last week I've received an E-mail from S. S has a FLR with her husband for 6 months now but her husband is starting to act a bit cocky and she doesn't know how to deal with it appropriately. S also pointed out that she ants to keep things basic. 

The situation above sounds very familiar to me as it is exactly what my husband did when we first engaged in our FLR. I've send S a personal answer but I will recap my thoughts below for all to benefit from.

Back to basics

To deal with a situation as described above it is needed to go back to the basics. In a Female led Relationship, the woman is obviously in charge. I'd like to go a step further and say that her partner/slave is her property and property should fit its purpose and obey. I also know that most of you don't want your relationship to become to extreme. It might be necessary however to create boundaries and take the things your partner takes for granted at this point and turn them in to a reward. I suggest following the majority of the pointers written out below for at least a two month period and afterwards slowly adjusting back to the living situation you are in now.

To be naked is to be vulnerable

Nudity is the ultimate humiliation for a human being; a naked male slave will feel vulnerable and enforces his feeling of being owned. A naked man will not speak out to a dressed woman, it will feel against their nature. Having your partner strip naked whenever he is indoors while you remain clothed and dressed will not only make your partner feel humbled but will else enforce a feeling on superiority on you.  After our two month period you evaluate and work forward to something that pleases you. That could be for example a male servant uniform to be worn inside the house (Maybe something you made yourself?) or you could keep him naked if that pleases you more. Wearing these clothing will feel like a reward considering he spend two months being naked. IF he starts acting up again you take away his clothing. Of course with being naked it becomes even more important that he keeps his body in shape and gets rid of nasty hairs. Therefore make sure he shaves at regular intervals (face daily, chest/pubes/arms(incl. armpits) every other day, legs weekly) or wax your slave.

Making him wear panties inside the house instead of complete nakedness could be an alternative and is fully up to your discretion ;-). I would also suggest a collar to be worn inside the house to further the feeling of being owned. A nice touch is to add a dog tag with a funny text such as 'this slut is owned by Miss Nienke' or a registration number from the Slave Register. 

Furniture

To sit on a chair, lay on a couch or sleep in a bed should be a privilege for your partner, not a basic right. Make his sit on the floor instead of sit on the couch for starters. When you have dinner  do so at your dinner table instead of in front of the TV and let him server you. While you eat he has to stand behind you (out of your sight but within range when you want your wine refilled). He may eat when you are satisfied and the table is cleaned. As he is a servant he eats in the kitchen standing at the counter. As extra humiliation you could limit what he eats to your left overs scraped together in a bowl. For a slave to be in your bed is one of the greatest virtues in his life and the bedroom should be your sanctity were you can have your alone time if needed. Make him sleep in the corridor in front of your bedroom door. Depending on his behavior he may have a blanket and/or a pillow. I went as far as moving his nightstand and cloths to our spare bedroom and redecorated my bedroom in a more feminine way; my bedroom is my private retreat :-). I also get a better nights' rest this way as my partner tends to turn a lot in his sleep.

Again, after this two month period being allowed on the couch to cuddle, to sleep in your bed or to eat together with you will feel like a great reward. Give these rewards as he deserves them and take them away if he starts slacking. 

Commands

After a week or two start teaching him some of these basic commands. 

Leave: he needs to immediately leave the room/space you are occupying.

Sit: he kneels, hands behind his back, eyes towards the floor
Down: he lays down on his belly, legs together, face turned towards his left shoulder, hands behind his backs
Crawl: He kneels then drops to all fours, forearms and lower legs flat on the ground and head lowered, he then crawls to you until his head touches your feet.
Silence: he may not speak until you say so.

Once these commands are learned they will benefit you forever. 

Discipline

As written in this post, rigorously adhering to a schedule of weekly discipline session for a submissive partner is very important.  At a scheduled time each week, you and your partner know that you will have him over your lap, over the back of a chair, or over the edge of the bed for an extended session with the cane or what

ever tool you select. Keep track of disobedience on a notepad if necessary. If your partner displeased you in any way make sure you show it during his discipline session. You know you hit hard enough when the welts of your cane are still visible the day after. As spring is coming a good alternative to a cane is fetching young fresh branches in a nearby park (a so called switch)! Discipline is something that should be inducted from the start and kept after the two month period. The intensity of the discipline should be related to the slaves behavior in such a way that he connects the two.

Chores
I know that most of your partners work but that should not mean he doesn't participate in maintaining the household. Give him a clear schedule of chores to perform on a daily basis (and enforce that he does them!). The example below will cover most of the areas in your house without taking up more then 30-45minutes of his time each workday and a bit more during weekends:

Daily: Wipe down the bathroom sink & toilet, sanitize food preparation areas & fill dishwasher
Monday: Sweep or vacuum high traffic areas
Tuesday: Mopping toilet, bathroom & kitchen floor
Wednesday: Clean kitchen cabinet doors
Thursday: Sweep or vacuum high traffic areas
Friday: Dust living room
Saturday: Mopping toilet, bathroom & kitchen floor & Project day
Sunday: Prepare for the week ahead


During the weekends you could add a more detailed schedule including getting up at a certain time to prepare you breakfast and serve you in bed!

Sex & targets
During these two months sex with your partner apart from taking him with a strap-on is out of the question. Set some targets for yourself and keep to them. For example: make sure to get at least four orgasms a week, visit your favorite chat site twice a week looking for potential lovers, flirt with at least one guy a week etc. I suggest halfway the two months to call your slave to you, make him kneel in front of you and to make him the promise that he will not be allowed to fuck you until another man has taken you. Don't worry, it doesn't matter if that takes a week or a year; there are plenty of alternatives for penetrative sex! The thought that he will not be able to be intimate with his girlfriend/wife until another real man has had you will make him nuts and the thought will make you extremely horny! Ideally you close of the two month program with a date (dinner, movie or more) with another man of course :-).Sites like Badoo are perfect for scoring a date btw!

Feel confident!

This might be the most important of all; you need to feel like a confident, sexy, independent woman who can take on the world. Make sure to read my posts on The importance of dressing (and acting) sexy and the golden rules for a dominant wife if you haven't yet.