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Wednesday, 7 September 2016

How to Properly “Edge” Him

Many Sites on the Internet talk about Ruining a Male Orgasm but Don’t actually Discuss the More Effective/Efficient Enslaving Femdom Art Discussed Here - What Most Ladies Are Much More Interested in I Find, is Routine & Habitual “Edging” (Subjugation) of Their Males Psychologically. That’s Playing with Him, Fondling Him, and Masturbating/Stimulating Him - Right to the “Edge” of Orgasm but NOT Actually Letting Him Cum.
Along with Daily Teasing (Physical & Visual), the Trick in the Beginning While Training His Psyche, is Caging Him. Almost Every day that My Male is wearing the penis cage I’ll remove it and Edge Him, at Least Once, if not Twice … After taking a few short breaks & giving him time to rest and recover I Will Then Stat Up All Over Again. Usually a Sleepy Long Cuddling Session Every Morning (often not Real Edging but Just Holding & Feeling His Rock Solid Hardness Rhythmically Pulse & Throb in my Hand, Before we get out of Bed) and then something a lot moreIntense and Deliberate in the evening (which might be One Edge or Many in a Row!)  Stroke - Edge - DENY - Repeat…
I always use our morning uncagings and hugging as an excuse/opportunity for him to shower and take it with him to wash it. He knows if I catch him playing with himself while in the shower the penis cage will stay on for a Month or More, So He Doesn’t Dare Do It. I’ve Trained Him Very Well, I Have to Say.
And oh yeah, Never Let Your Male go Pee in the Morning, Until it’s Time For Him to get up and Shower. You See, If He Has to Pee - He'll Helplessly & Quite Naturally, Grow Extra Rock Hard in Your Hand while Your Cuddling & Holding Him in the Morning.
The Real Art with “Edging” (And It Is Most Definitely an Art); is to Learn Exactly How to get Him as Close as Possible to an Explosion without Actually Allowing Him to Erupt !!! If you pay Close Attention while you Fondle & Play, You’ll Learn Precisely the Clear Warning Signs of an Imminent Ejaculation. There’s Nothing Quite Like “Edging” For Subliminally Building a Guys Libido & Desire. Not Only Will He CherishYou More Thanks to Neurochemistry, But within a Short Timeframe His Vulnerable / Exploitable Mind Will Be Totally Under Your Feminine Control …
Here are some powerful training tips:
  • Make Him “Always” Tell You - Exactly - How Close He is !!! Kind of obvious, but Insist that he Tells you When to Slow Down & When to Stop. Especially in the Beginning While You’re Learning How To Read His Body Language. Keep talking to Him, Ask Him How it Feels, What is Best. You’ll soon get the FEEL of it {LOL} & He’ll Love You Even More For It…
  • Feel for his body & muscles tensing - Him holding his Breath, Arching his Back or Even Tensing, All Are Signs he’s getting Very Close. Learn to read & understand the Signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re Learning! Just Be Sure It’s a Libido Building(Subjugating) “Ruined” Orgasm…
  • Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft up to His Tip - Constantly - “Change It Up” - Take your Time and Make Sure You Get Him Ultra Rock Hard for Maximum Dopamine production in his Vulnerable Brain. I Personally Like Lots of lube / oil and fast but not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer & closer, move to an looser grip and then focus on his Hyper-Sensitive head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where Guys are most sensitive). Also Take Breaks Frequently - It’s Better to Stop One second too Early Than One Second Too Late !!!  Stroke - - Edge - - DENY - - Repeat…
  • Make it Ultimately HIS Fault if He Erupts. So Again, if he Does Explode, Make Sure You Properly “Ruin it” ; Stop All Rubbing / Stimulation as Soon as he Starts Climax. OR if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, After the Ruined Orgasm, Where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick - Scolding Him By Saying, ‘You’re so Naughty, I Didn’t Give You Permission To Cum !!!’
When You DO Want to Enjoy His Pent Up Explosions, Make that Part of the Tease Too. When You’re Planning to Make Him Climax & Erupt, This is a great Time to Also Practice your "Edging" Techniques… Use it as an Opportunity to See Just How Crazy You can Make Him, where you’re not worrying about Accidently Taking Him Over the Edge.
Oh and you can add a Wonderfully Sadistic element with this line, ‘If you can hold on for Just five minutes More My Love, I won’t Ruin It when you Do Cum, Okay Baby?’
A Very Effective Mind Fuck & Programming Tool.

Punishment... A necesarry evil (or delight?)

Although I don’t often administer corporal punishment I certainly feel it has a place in the Female Led Lifestyle that so many women are adopting. While I’ve only delivered two spankings to him in 2016 (so far), I found them to be very satisfying, and more importantly, effective. 
Behaviors that have might result in corporal punishment can run the gamut. There are several reasons that I may deem a spanking necessary.
  • The male disrespecting you or your friends
  • Frequent complaining about your training methods
  • Failure to complete simple household chores to your satisfaction
  • Male attempting to direct sexual encounters in any way
  • Unauthorized orgasms
  • Failure to wear panties
  • And frankly any behavior that you deem lazy or selfish
Surely there are many other reasons that you may choose to spank you man, but ultimately, delivering corporal punishment is a tool you should keep available to you when you feel such severe corrective action is necessary.
Once you’ve decided corporal punishment is imminent I suggest you fully explain to him why he is going to have to endure the punishment you’re about to inflict. After all, if he doesn’t understand why it is happening, how can he correct his behavior in the future? While explaining the situation to him you should be confident and direct. You should be looking down on him, so he should be kneeling or sitting while you stand over him. Stare him in the eyes even if he tries to look away. What you are about to do to him is an act of sheer dominance for you and hopeless submission for him. It should begin and end with you doing the talking while looking down at him from the dominant position. His only response to your words should be “Yes Ma'am” or whatever term of endearment you prefer. 
I have employed two methods of corporal punishment in our relationship. One has him standing with his body facing a wall. The other sees him laying prone over my lap like a child. I felt both were equally effective. After I’ve explained the reasons that have forced me to make this decision, I tell him to strip nude. During the hurried moments before the punishment I am very firm and decisive. Any hesitation on his part will add to the number of spankings. I want it to be very clear to him that the time for discussion has passed. There is no negotiation. It’s important that once the decision has been made, he accepts his fate and complies swiftly. 
Once he is in the proper position as instructed by me I begin the spankings. I’m of the opinion that for most offenses 10 spankings is appropriate. If he resists, or squirms to much, or raises his hands to his buttocks to block the blows, then more spankings will be added at my discretion. 
MY METHOD - Yours may be different
When I begin delivering the spankings, they are hard. I prefer to use my bare hand to ensure I am not doing any real damage, such as breaking skin, but it needs to hurt. Using my bare hand also helps me gauge how hard I am really hitting him. If the palm of my hands don’t begin to sting by the 5th blow, I figure I’m probably going to light. I try to deliver the blows 3-5 seconds apart and in between blows I find myself talking to him in a firm but calm manner. Repeating to him why this was happening and encouraging him to correct whatever behavior prompted this to happen. Example:
SMACK!
“Now baby I’m not going to tolerate you back talking me when I tell you to do something.”
SMACK!
“When I tell you you’re not coming this week, that’s what I mean”
SMACK!
“I wish I didn’t have to do this honey, but you’ve made it necessary”
SMACK!
“Oh come on, take it like a man”
SMACK!
You get the idea. The picture above shows the very obvious result of a good spanking. If my mans ass is not a crimson red after the spanking, then I haven’t done it hard enough and the effectiveness of this exercise may be lost. This young lady has obviously delivered a hard but surely deserved spanking. Her male will clearly not forget it anytime soon and I bet whatever behavior he exhibited to cause this spanking will not be repeated anytime soon. I applaud her for permanently capturing this image that she can use a reminder anytime she feels he is stepping out of line. I think I will do the same on the next occasion I deliver a spanking. 
Aside from the obvious and harmless physical pain I am inflicting on him, I’ve found that these corporal punishment sessions are extremely humbling to the male psyche. It’s as if every blow, every smack, every comment from my mouth, serves to reaffirm my dominance over him and his status as my submissive bitch. You should view each SMACK as a demonstration of your power. When your hand lowers onto his bare ass cheeks the resulting sound and sting will strip him of his male ego and pride a little more each time

Thursday, 25 August 2016

Thoughts from a Bull

"In my vision of the perfect cuckold couple dynamic, for me, there is variety. Sometimes the cuckold is there to serve us both sexually, sometimes he can only watch. Sometimes he can only listen from another room and sometimes he is not there at all. I see this as ideal for a number of reasons. Variety keeps things interesting and in my experience, uncertainty for the cuckold adds enormously to the sexual tension (or angst) he experiences. Overall, it makes him appreciate the treats or rewards he gets from his wife when he has been obedient enough to deserve them.
Also on a practical level, if (as a cuckold), you genuinely want a Bull to be interested in your wife for a sustained period of time you must learn the value of stepping back and allowing them to spend quality time together.
Speaking from a Bulls perspective, if you truly want to hold a Bulls attention; if regular meets are truly your desire, it is essential that conditions are in place to allow a bond to develop between your wife and her Bull. Nothing makes me lose interest in a couple quicker than an inaccessible wife. Yes, I always make a point of getting to know the cuckold: his fantasies, his desires, his jealousy’s and fears,…mainly to know which buttons to push, how far I can go, and to win his trust…however, for me there also has to be some kind of mechanism that allows me to get to know and hopefully bond with the wife. Private texting or phone chats is the bare minimum for me. An occasional night alone with her though, is what is really required to take this whole experience to the next level, for everybody involved.
It’s hardly news to anyone anymore that the secret to powerful, invigorating sex starts in the mind. Ideally, the whole hotwife experience starts out sensual, long before it gets sexual. Grant your wife the space, time and opportunity to have her mind trigger REAL desire for her Bull, and then, only then, are you guaranteed REAL cuckold-hotwife fireworks."

Tuesday, 23 August 2016

10 Things You Need To Know About Cuckolding

10. Since the 1900s the term ‘cuckolding’ has been widely used to describe a sexual fetish in which the fetishist is stimulated by their partner choosing to have sex with someone else. Most commonly used to refer to a husband with an adulterous wife.

9. The wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is commonly referred to as a ‘hot wife’ or a cuckoldress if the man is more submissive.

8. Cuckolding can also be mixed with other non-monogamous relationships such as swinging, wife swapping, open relationships, polyamory, etc. It generally differs from the others as cuckolds thrill in their partners acts in a masochistic way, which is why it’s often categorised as a BDSM practice.

7. The masochistic aspect of Cuckolding comes from the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. The fears of infidelity and the failure to compete against another man for a woman’s affection becomes erotic.

6. Many cuckolds who crave the humiliation aspect like being forced to perform sexual acts or other acts which would normally be deemed insulting or degrading,such as cleaning out the ‘Bull’s’ cum from his wife’s pussy, while the female is encouraged to boast about the physical superiority of her male lover.

5. There are two types of cockolds. Active cuckolds like to be present in the room when the sexualcuckold3 act between the Hot Wife and her lover takes place. They mostly don’t join in, but get their pleasure from watching their partner’s enjoyment. Some cuckolds enjoy taking photographs and videos of these acts. Some submissive cuckolds also like to be tied up so that they are unable to move and feel helpless to do anything but to witness the act. Passive cuckolds (by their choice or their partners) are not allowed to enter the place of bonding. These cuckolds are very imaginative in nature and would expect their female partner to share their experience with their lover to them and they get their pleasure by imagining every aspect of their partners encounter. One of the important aspects of such cuckolds are that they enjoy the act of getting their spouse ready for the date.

4. The female partner would (or is expected to) view/use the cuckold as a resource to use financially and however else she sees fit, ie housework, etc and less as a physical partner.

cuckold43. Many cuckolds enjoy being denied a sexual relationship with their wife. They gain most, if not all of their sexual pleasure through their wife’s sexual encounters with other men.

2. Cuckolding is more common than you might think. Though there are no official statistics for practitioners and lovers of cuckolding – forums, blogs, tube sites, dating sites dedicated to the practice are more widespread than ever and only appear to be growing in popularity.

1. Trust The most important aspect of a cuckold relationship is the trust the couples have in each other. Cuckolds view the physical relationship between the female and the lover to be similar to the female playing a game of tennis or other brief entertainment, with the added benefit of pleasure for the cuckold and view it as non threatening to their relationship. A spouse going to dinner with their lover is seen as a bigger threat than them having a physical relationship as it can be viewed as a romantic/emotional connection rather than the harmless entertainment of the physical relationship.

Monday, 22 August 2016

Talking about Cuckolding with your Feminist Husband

All modern women should marry men who consider themselves feminists, so as to have an equal life partner who will respect her needs.

However, often, men who identify as feminists do not meet the wive’s sexual needs, even if her emotional needs are well fulfilled. When talking about cuckolding with your feminist husband, it’s important to emphasize the concept of equality. Gender equality is not about equal outcomes, it’s about equal opportunity. To “level the playing field” and to put everyone on the same footing.

Introducing cuckolding into your marriage gives you and your husband equal opportunity for sexual pleasure. 

For men to enjoy sex is biologically easy. Put their dick someplace warm for a while, push it in and out, and they have fun.

For a woman to enjoy sex, however, she needs more than simple physical stimulation. A woman’s sexuality is very cerebral. She needs to be mentally stimulated to even get close to having an orgasm.

Seven minutes of basic penetration for a man gives roughly the equal pleasure of a woman being fucked all night by a tall, confident, muscular Alpha male who will dominate her completely. Physical vs mental: men are highly physical, women are highly mental.

Feminist men are generally gentle (submissive) men, who will tend to their partners as equals or even as supperior. They are not capable of being sexually dominant, even though that is the psychological turn-on for women.

A feminist (or FLR) marriage, therefore, in the interest of giving opportunity for sufficient sexual pleasure to female partners, should be half-open, where the female is encouraged to seek male partners who will fulfill her sexual needs, while her emotional needs are met by her male spouse.


Sunday, 21 August 2016


When you have reached this stage in the relationship, there is no turning back for him. By shaving him, putting him in panties, and locking his cock the wife proves that she is the leader in the marriage. Forever. His only choice is to accept this fate and do his best to keep her happy in the hopes that she will reward him with an occasional orgasm.
When they go out shopping or to dinners, she will proudly wear the key to his cock around her neck. Or perhaps her ankle. It will be awkward for him. An embarrassing but constant reminder of his role in the relationship. He’ll remain pantied and cock locked on their outings. She should dispose of all his male colognes and insist that he uses her perfume as well as female deodorant. Masculinity is no longer in his makeup. Masculinity is for real men with real cocks. They both know. 
This is permanent. This is reality

3 reasons everyone should try cuckolding their (in)significant other

Watching you with someone else can improve your bond with your (in)significant other. Read more to find out how.

Cuckolding and hotwifing are hot topics and are newly embraced lifestyles. These days, women are more comfortable with their sexual desires and are not afraid to act them out; they no longer prefer just lights out sex or the missionary position. If you are stuck in a rut in your relationship, having sex with another man — known as cuckolding or hotwifing — could be exactly what you need to reignite passion. Many females are getting into voyeurism, meaning they love people watching them have sex, which soon leads to cuckolding. Voyeurism used to be just a fantasy for most couples, but experimenting with sex and welcoming another person into the relationship (to carry out fetishes and fulfill your desires) can often strengthen the relationship. So, what are the benefits of cuckolding and hotwifing? Let's explore.

1. It's his turn on to watch.
Men love to show off just how amazing their wife is, whether it's her body or her skills between the sheets. By watching you have sex with another man, he may be surprised at how much of a turn on this is for him. There is a big difference between sex and a loving relationship, but your partner knows this, and the steamy encounter is ONLY that; your sexual satisfaction. Don't worry about cheating; cuckolding is likely to make him love and respect you even more.

2. Explore voyeurism.
Cuckolding is a great way to spice up your relationship because it can make you see just how good you have it. Exploring with voyeurism, and letting your (in)sigfnificant other watch as you have sex with another man, can make it like a competition; one he is bound to loose. Next time you are alone you want to point out how much better your lover is and how he is the best lover you've ever had.

3. You are both less likely to cheat.
Hotwifing can make you as a woman less likely to cheat in the future because you don't need to. You are having another penis with his permission. These type of relationships generally make the partnership with your (in)significant other that much more trusting and open. Next time you feel the urge to have sex with somebody else, you don't need to go behind his back and do it—you can simply invite him to watch or tell him the details afterwards.

You only live once, so why not help fulfill your partner's biggest fantasy and
have sex with another man? You can search online at a swingers website or dating site to find somebody, or even ask one of your friends if they are comfortable with doing so or ask your (in)significant other to help find you someone. People think that cuckolding can hinder a relationship, but it does the exact opposite and makes your connection better than ever. Trust the experts!

Saturday, 20 August 2016

The Toilet Roll Test


Want to know if he’s officially small?

Put a toilet roll tube over his cock. If you can slide it over he’s officially got a thin dicklet, if he doesn’t reach the end or isn’t longer than it, he’s officially got a short dicklet. If he doesn’t do either he’s officially got a little dicklet.

This is why you don’t cum when he fucks you. It’s not you, and I hope you haven’t been feeling guitly about it, it’s simply he’s not big enough to make you cum like that. It’s not his fault, it’s just how things are.

Any of these results means he needs to be caged, and you be properly satisfied with his mouth, hands and dildo instead. Or just invite your lover ;-)

Sunday, 6 December 2015

The Different Levels of Cuckold Angst:
Level 1: You openly flirts with other men in front of your hubby, and you like to tease him about it. 
Level 2: You never wear panties when you leaves the house, and always jump in the shower when you get home from work. 
Level 3: Your hubby suspect you had sex with another man, but you refuse to either confirm or deny it.
Level 4: You  fucked another man, and left your dirty panties on the floor of the bedroom for your hubby to find, but you won’t tell him who he was.
Level  5: You are fucking one of the guys you work with, and make your hubby buy the condoms. he over heard you on the phone talking with you best friend that the guy is black and has a really big cock. 
Level 6: You have a boyfriend who you see on the weekends. You let him watch sometimes, but usually not. 
Level 7: You like to fuck other men in front of your hubby, and make him lick out and clean up your pussy afterwards.
Level 8: You have a regular lover who has 24/7 access to your pussy, and drops by whenever he wants. The last time he came over, you made your hubby suck his cock to get him ready. 
Level 9: Whenever you are too tired, or not in the mood, your lover bends your sissy over and fucks him instead.
Level 10: You are three months pregnant and it is probably your lover’s baby, and he has made it clear to your hubby that he is not allowed near his pussy until after you have given birth.


Sunday, 1 February 2015

Sissy tasks: Skirt day!

If your sissy is like mine, he will probably come home from work and ditch his work clothes and puts on something comfortable. As he is a sissy he is of course wearing panties 24/7 but why not lay out a
cure dress or a skirt for him to wear when he gets home from work.

Put his outfit ready on the ebd and tell him once he comes home that you put his cloths out on the bed and ask him to go change while you make dinner!

For the added effect you could add a nice A-cup bra and a cute girly t-shirt!

Sissy task: Getting to know your sissy

Easy task:

Tell your sissy to send you 3 pictures of his ultimate sissy dream appearance.
One should be of a sissy, the other two should be real girls.

 Additionally he should describe in one sentence what he would like to be as a sissy.


Thursday, 29 January 2015

Sissy clits - they should be tucked!

As you all know by now sissies do not have a penis, they have a sissy clit. A good sissy should have so many styles of panties, that she never has to fear getting bored with their underwear drawer again! You can get her just about anything that tickles your fancy! 

Due to sissy clits often being slightly bigger then real girly parts (only slightly), she will need to learn how to tuck those sissy bits away and not ruin the look of her panties. The way to do it is a way TGirls have been doing for centuries. It sounds funny but its completely safe. In a sissy's lower abdominal just above her sissy bits is where her testis came out as a baby and they can safely be put back in that area so she has less baggage down there to tuck. She can gently and slowly lift them up there with your
fingers. Now after that she can pull the rest back and under in between your legs, then she can slide on a gaff to keep everything in place. A gaff is made specially for tucking your little sissy peepee back. 

Like this your sissy can wear any girly panties you want which gives you so much more options!

A good tutorial on how to make a gaff can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjZFhnFFItM
All you need to do is send him the link and tell him (her) that you think she should make one!


Saturday, 3 January 2015

The sissy psyche

It is key to understand the mind of a Sissy Boy to make this experience satisfying for the both of you. Im going to just write down what I learned so far so you can use it to your own advantage. At the heart of every sissy’s psyche is a need for sexual humiliation. They are most aroused by acts, words, and situations that are unpleasant and degrading. One part of them is irresistibly drawn to things that another part of them finds very distasteful.

For most people, the biggest initial hurdle to overcome is a sense of guilt as you learn to interact with her. It’s hard not to feel a little bad as you relax on the couch while she works diligently at scrubbing your bathroom; especially since she gets no tangible reward whatsoever for her efforts. But the key here to remember is that while she is not receiving any payment or physical reward, you are giving her something infinitely greater; something that she could never obtain on her own.

This leads into a key question…what exactly does she want?
And here lies a problem. For most sissies, explicitly telling you exactly how they would like to be treated will make the relationship feel as if they are in control; that they are calling the shots. They need you to be in control at all times. But in all this, don’t bend too far to try and appease their fantasies. Fundamentally, this is about you and what you enjoy. Their entire role is to be relegated to being a servant whose sole function is to attend to you and make your life pleasant.

1. Sissies are not men
At least not real men. They failed as men and thats why they are our sissy boys. Never forget to mention this at least once a day ('you're such a pathetic excuse for a man', 'you make a better girl then a man by a mile', 'you're such a sissy!'). It's important for his state of mind that you keep this up; don't try to make her be something she just isn't meant to be. Because they are not men, they do not have cocks, they have a clit and a sissy pussy.

2. Sissies need to train to satisfy men
Most sissies would consider themselves at least mostly heterosexual, and in general are less attracted to men than to women. However, the very fact that they find sexual acts with men undesirable or possibly degrading also makes those acts very arousing because of the humiliation they entail. Even though he may never really do it, you need to keep reminding him when he sucks your strapon or practices his blow job techniques on a dildo that he is preparing to suck real cock.

When you fuck him, you tell him how pathetic he is and that he needs to try harder to satisfy real men. When he walks, tell him to sway his hips because men like it. This is all strongly related to the 1.): as he is no real men and cant pleasure you (a real woman) he should just practice to please men because ultimately thats all he's good for.

3. Make him ever more feminine
This is important but it also takes time. He will need a proper wardrobe and will need to maintain his body. Your goal is to strife for perfection which is usually a goal you will never reach. have attention to details: remove stray hairs and shape his eyebrows (don't over do it but removing stray hairs and giving some shape to his eyebrows will actually make her look better both as a man and as a sissy), make him do a manicure and pedicure regularly and enforce a strict diet to get his body in sissy shape. Slowly start behavior modifications ('thats no way for a girl to act') with emphasis on the fact she is a slut, Theres probably a lot of work to do but it will be so much fun!

4. Making Her Useful
You don’t ever need to have any feeling of self-consciousness or fear of rejection. With a sissy you are free to be fully yourself, telling her exactly how you want to be treated. Be selfish. Be lavishly, unimaginably selfish. Ever wondered what it would feel like to have your asshole softly licked? Ever had the desire to fuck someone’s throat and watch the mascara run down their cheeks as they gag?How about having your pussy worshipped while you watch tv? Be honest with yourself as you experiment. Your sissy will thrive on your genuine enjoyment and satisfaction.

Don’t ever feel a sense of pressure though. If all you want is a foot rub, all she gets to do is give you a foot rub. Most importantly: don’t let her cum. If you only remember one thing in this chapter, make it this one: as soon as a sissy cums, she instantly becomes almost entirely useless. As bizarre as it seems, your sissy is a completely different person ten seconds after an orgasm then she was ten seconds before it. Her satisfaction comes from being allowed to pleasure you. We’ll cover a little later some ways that you can occasionally allow her a sexual reward, but for the most part you are the only one who gets to have orgasms. Lots and lots of orgasms.

The other most common use for sissies is domestic chores. Never politely ask a sissy if she would like to complete a task for you. This makes her feel as if she is your equal and is doing your housework of her own volition, making it drudgery. But if you firmly command her to do something, she will tingle with submissive excitement as she works - especially if she knows there will be consequences if she fails to do the task correctly.

The more humiliating the tasks the better, and whenever possible point out to her that a real man would never obediently do these demeaning tasks. Depending on your situation, a sissy may eventually be able to handle the majority of your domestic tasks…laundry, cooking, dishes, cleaning.
If you have her perform a task that has a “masculine” perception, such as mowing the yard, be sure she does it in very feminine attire. Of course, whether or not you want the neighbors seeing a ballerina mowing your grass is up to you.

5. Rewards
A sissy’s life shouldn’t be entirely without little selfish pleasures, although they should be very rare compared to yours. Although they do require a small amount of effort on your part, properly spaced rewards will keep your sissy incentivized and even more eager to please.
Her single biggest treat will more than likely be the occasions she is allowed out of chastity. Make sure her next release date is on the calendar, and keep up with moving it later or earlier based on her behaviour. This date will be etched in her mind at all times, as her frustrated little penis squirms inside it’s prison.

The last thing you want to do though is just allow her to run off and privately masturbate as soon as she is free. While some sissies can handle this, many will have waves of guilt and echoes of masculinity surge immediately after masturbating. For their own good, you must ignore their pleas to be allowed to touch themselves freely.

Her only orgasms should be “ruined”. A ruined orgasm is essentially one in which pleasant stroking contact is not present, allowing the cum to ooze out without the intense sensations and emotions of an orgasm with full stimulation. This will leave her feeling somewhat relieved, but if done correctly she will still be slightly horny and unsatisfied. Her sissy psychology will hopefully remain at least partially intact.

Give her the key to her chastity device and allow her to unlock herself. Make sure she knows the consequences will be extreme if she is in the least bit disobedient during this process.
Once unlocked, restrict her hands with cuffs or cable tie behind her back.
From here there are a few different options.

The easiest is to use a vibrator and hold it against the underside of her penis, right where the head meets the shaft. Verbally humiliate her while you hold it there. Tell her this is the only kind of orgasm a sissy like her gets to have, and tell her to hurry up and shoot her little load. The more you can get inside her head with your insults, the quicker this will go. Of course, if you’re enjoying yourself, take your time and even pull the vibrator off when you think she’s getting close to cumming. If you’re feeling especially cruel you can put a time limit on the “treat”, and she goes back in chastity once times expires regardless of whether she has been able to cum.
If she cums from this method, simply pull the vibrator away as soon as her orgasm begins. The cum will still ooze out, but you will have successfully ruined it.

The more “hands on” approach is to give her a traditional handjob and pull away as soon as she starts to cum. This technique isn’t nearly as foolproof though. It’s very easy to stroke just a little too long, giving her a few seconds of “thrusting” orgasm. Even if you let go halfway through this kind of orgasm, she will still have felt the hormone surge and will likely not remain in her sissy mental state.

Whether or not a sissy should ever be allowed a satisfying orgasm is a matter of debate. I personally like the idea of sissies being allowed one full orgasm annually on their birthday, or allowing them one un-ruined orgasm for every one hundred orgasms they give you. This has the added bonus of keeping her extremely excited for opportunities to pleasure you.



Thursday, 1 January 2015

How to make a Sissy 101 part 2

A few months ago I did a basic article on how to make a sissy.

In this post I would like to elaborate a bit on that article. Most men who want to be sissy gurls (like my husband) need this for stress relief. It's not something he or you should be ashamed of. We are who we are and its our job as leading ladies in their lives to make them feel accepted. He wants this but even more so he wants you to 'force/guide' him.

In this article I will give you some practical handles on how to give him what he needs without having to fall in to the same routine every time. The previous post is important and you should read it before reading this post. Some of the basics just need to be followed. A sissy has as no or little as possible body hair and painting his (toe) nails is a good start and a daily reminder.

You can take things a step further on preset times. For example weekends could be full on sissy time if/when you are alone where after work hours are just limited. Whats written below seems a bit much to you most likely but there is no need to do it all at once. start slowly and build things up over the weeks a head of you.

Ok so practical handles....

Panties
Panties are key for any submissive male but especially for sissy boys. Make sure he wears them when he's at home at all times. If your partner has an office job like mine, the first thing he does when he gets home is probably to ditch his suit. This would be a good time for him to also ditch his boy underwear and put on something frilly. If he's more daring then you may also 'force' him to wear his girly panties to work. Keep one or two pair of his old underwear for special occasions (hide them) and leave his girly panties for him to wear. Which route you choose is up to you..

Stockings 
My hubby loves them and I'm sure your partner does as well. I suggest making him wear them after work and in the weekend by default. And why not make him wear stockings under his pants when you go grocery shopping (really, no one will notice..)?  During the week these could be normal stockings (skin colored or black etc) with his normal jeans on top and during the weekend these could be self hold up stockings or sexy stockings with a suspender belt.

Wig
If you hubby has short hair he'll need a wig. In the Netherlands we have a festivity called carnaval in February where people dress up so we usually go out to costume shops and noone will even look odd at you when fitting a wig no matter if you are male or female! As a bonus these wigs are cheap as well. Buy something that looks like a normal (though slutty) girl would have a a hairdo and not something green or orange or whatever. The wig can be saved for the weekend.

Wardrobe
One thing I did with my hubby when he confessed to be a sissy boy was the following: I took him upstairs, opened my closet and said 'if you could choose one item from my wardrobe, what would it be'. He chose a cute loose fitting dress. I made him fit it and told him he could keep it (it looked kinda cute on him!). It actually almost brought him to tears! I did make him wear it for the whole day!  Either way, in the weekend he will be a sissy gurl so he will need two outfits. Buy him a plaid 'schoolgirl' skirt or stretchy skirt and a dress.

You can get a skirt on E-bay as cheap as 2-3 USD. Dresses and tops are harder and best ordered online in a shop with a good return policy or fitted in a big mall without nosey salespeople. The last option is much more fun! last but not least: he will need a good sturdy corset or a waist cincher to give him a more feminine waistline!

Things that work: plaid skirts, stretchy skirts, dresses that are loose around the waist, hot pants. For tops go with something that covers his arms and shoulders.

Apart from that wig, panties and stockings he will also need a pair of heels. My favorite is to send him out alone without a bank card and just some cash and tell him not to come back until he finds a pair of heels but you can also just order these online.

If he (or you) is in to it you should definitely also buy him a maids' uniform ;-)

Make-up
Very important! During the week there is probably no time for makeup but during the weekend it is all the more important. Saturday morning after a fresh shower and removal of any hair a sissy shouldnt have, you do his make-up. Sissy boys wear make-up the slutty way (red lips, rouge, blue eyes) not like us classy girls. More on this in my previous post (hint: the key is lots of foundation!). Get crazy every now and then with eyelash extensions and fake nails as well!




Other fun stuff to try out
 - Take him out for a car ride at night (and drop him off somewhere abandoned, drive around the block and pick him up (works great cause he doesn't know when you'll be back.).
 - If you are from Holland you could drop him off somewhere during Carnaval and make him walk home (the walk of shame).
 - Teaching him to walk on 6 inch heels the whole day will be a challenge on its own ;-).
 - So will teaching him feminine manners.
 - Learn him to deepthroat a dildo (make him practice 'cock sucking' for half an hour each Saturday evening. Depending how kinky you are you could eventually arrange for a real guy to come by and let him 'practice' on him (don't forget to make pictures!). We did and it was one of the best experiences we both had! I made him blow a guy in our living room that I found through an ad on the internet and made the guy pay me 10 Euros (which I gave him earlier on). He even thanked me for the use of my whore :-)!
 - Do a photoshoot so you have some 'blackmail' material.Get some of them printed as an extra bonus.
 - If you allow him out of chastity tell him he is only allowed to cum using a vibrator (like a girl).
 - Go shop for womens jeans or a womens top with him and make him wear it in public (no one will notice but he will know).
- Make him wear rouge on his cheeks in public (no one will see anything but he will know).
- Get his ears pierced!







Wednesday, 31 December 2014

Sissy hubbies/boyfriends are fun!

Yes ladies, you read that right! having a sissy as a partner is great fun! Why? because they share our number one outdoor activity; SHOPPING! Here's some great thing you can do with a sissy that you can't do with a real man. Some of them are just for fun, others are great tools to make you and your sissy more comfortable with your relationship!

Lingerie
When you find that super cute pair of panties that you just have to have, why not buy an extra pair one size up? Your sissy will surely feel like on cloud nine and accepted for who he is! It will also give you that satisfying feeling when you're out with your partner knowing you wear matching panties ;-).

Shoe shopping
Sissy gurls just love shoes, especially high heels. Take him shoe shopping and make him fit a pair for himself while you're there. Dont want to take it outdoors? Shop with him online for those slutty heels you know he deserves!

Dresses and skirts
This is not recommended in small stores but in big department stores you may easily pick up a few extra items and let him take them to the dressing room. Matching panties is something but wouldn't matching outfits be so much better?



Sunday, 13 July 2014

How to make a Sissy 101

After my last post (The sissy whore experience) I got an interesting question from one of my readers.
She asked if I could explain in to more detail how she could make her hairy and slightly overweight husband in to a sissy gurl. Well first of all shame on you girl! Slaves should be trimmed whether they are sissy's or not ;-)! Anyway I don't have a lot of time today but I'll try to make a small comprehensible post.

Body hair
Simply said: Sissy boys should have any! If you don't wax your partner I suggest using a hair removal cream (Veet has one specifically made for the more rough male hair) on arms, legs, back, ass, feet etc. Avoid the crotch area and nipples. you can apply a lot of body lotion or Vaseline to the crotch and nipples to avoid splatter and irritation before applying the hair removal cream to the rest of his body. His private parts should be shaved. My personal favorite of late is to leave a little landing strip just above his boy clitty. Last but not least make sure his face is shaved smooth.

Nails, face etc
Now that we have a nice smooth clean canvas we can start working forward. Start by applying a nice
(pink?) nail polish on his toes. Next are his fingers. Most men don't have very flattering finger nails so I suggest going with the artificial (extra long) variety. Again finish of with a nice bright nail polish.

For his face we start by plucking his eyebrows. Dont go all out as he probably has to go to work the week after. Simply round of the corners on the inside (near his nose), slightly trim the outsides a bit thinner and remove any hairs growing out of line. Apply fake eyelashes (the 1 Euro cheap bimbo kind) as a finishing touch for the eyes.

We will finish off with the most important part of his attire: his wig!

Clothing
A corset does wonders for anyone's figure! I suggest you a cheap one on ebay (they go as cheap as 10 dollars). Choose the color wisely as this might be the point were you decide on the theme for your sissy (will he be wearing pink, black or maybe baby blue?). As your sissy doesn't have real boobs you can fill up the ' cavities' with a pair of socks or buy cheap silicone boobies for him on ebay. You will also need stockings and a matching garter belt. On top I suggest buying a skirt; a simple plaid schoolgirl skirt will do. A wide white blouse will do as a top. Last but not least his heels ;-) Why not let him buy them himself the day before (don't forget to give him a list of requirements such as color, height etc).


Make-up
Start with applying a heavy layer of full coverage foundation (the heavy stuff). This is impartant as it will have
his beard growth. Next are his eyes. Apply your basics here (eyeliner, heavy eye shadow and mascara on his fake lashes. Apply a rose blushy powder on his cheeks and finish with deep red lipstick.

Done!
congratulations you now own a fully dressed sissy boy! Take him out for a nice photo shoot, make him cater you at home, turn him in to a proper sissy maid or whore him out (by webcam or in real life); the possibilities are endless!




Shopping list
 - Fake finger nails
 - Nail polish (pink)
 - Fake eyelashes
 - Cheap corset
 - Stockings + garter belt
 - Some socks as fake boobs (or silicone fake boobs)
 - Skirt + wide blouse
 - Heels
 - Makeup (foundation,
 - Wig!

Additional:
 - clip on earrings
 - Necklace
 - Apron

Buying the stuff above on ebay will cost you less then 30 dollars and will give the both of you so much fun!


Sunday, 23 March 2014

Question from reader S - How to deal with a cocky slave

Last week I've received an E-mail from S. S has a FLR with her husband for 6 months now but her husband is starting to act a bit cocky and she doesn't know how to deal with it appropriately. S also pointed out that she ants to keep things basic. 

The situation above sounds very familiar to me as it is exactly what my husband did when we first engaged in our FLR. I've send S a personal answer but I will recap my thoughts below for all to benefit from.

Back to basics
To deal with a situation as described above it is needed to go back to the basics. In a Female led Relationship, the woman is obviously in charge. I'd like to go a step further and say that her partner/slave is her property and property should fit its purpose and obey. I also know that most of you don't want your relationship to become to extreme. It might be necessary however to create boundaries and take the things your partner takes for granted at this point and turn them in to a reward. I suggest following the majority of the pointers written out below for at least a two month period and afterwards slowly adjusting back to the living situation you are in now.

To be naked is to be vulnerable
Nudity is the ultimate humiliation for a human being; a naked male slave will feel vulnerable and enforces his feeling of being owned. A naked man will not speak out to a dressed woman, it will feel against their nature. Having your partner strip naked whenever he is indoors while you remain clothed and dressed will not only make your partner feel humbled but will else enforce a feeling on superiority on you.  After our two month period you evaluate and work forward to something that pleases you. That could be for example a male servant uniform to be worn inside the house (Maybe something you made yourself?) or you could keep him naked if that pleases you more. Wearing these clothing will feel like a reward considering he spend two months being naked. IF he starts acting up again you take away his clothing. Of course with being naked it becomes even more important that he keeps his body in shape and gets rid of nasty hairs. Therefore make sure he shaves at regular intervals (face daily, chest/pubes/arms(incl. armpits) every other day, legs weekly) or wax your slave.

Making him wear panties inside the house instead of complete nakedness could be an alternative and is fully up to your discretion ;-). I would also suggest a collar to be worn inside the house to further the feeling of being owned. A nice touch is to add a dog tag with a funny text such as 'this slut is owned by Miss Nienke' or a registration number from the Slave Register

Furniture
To sit on a chair, lay on a couch or sleep in a bed should be a privilege for your partner, not a basic right. Make his sit on the floor instead of sit on the couch for starters. When you have dinner  do so at your dinner table instead of in front of the TV and let him server you. While you eat he has to stand behind you (out of your sight but within range when you want your wine refilled). He may eat when you are satisfied and the table is cleaned. As he is a servant he eats in the kitchen standing at the counter. As extra humiliation you could limit what he eats to your left overs scraped together in a bowl. For a slave to be in your bed is one of the greatest virtues in his life and the bedroom should be your sanctity were you can have your alone time if needed. Make him sleep in the corridor in front of your bedroom door. Depending on his behavior he may have a blanket and/or a pillow. I went as far as moving his nightstand and cloths to our spare bedroom and redecorated my bedroom in a more feminine way; my bedroom is my private retreat :-). I also get a better nights' rest this way as my partner tends to turn a lot in his sleep.

Again, after this two month period being allowed on the couch to cuddle, to sleep in your bed or to eat together with you will feel like a great reward. Give these rewards as he deserves them and take them away if he starts slacking. 

Commands
After a week or two start teaching him some of these basic commands. 

Leave: he needs to immediately leave the room/space you are occupying.
Sit: he kneels, hands behind his back, eyes towards the floor
Down: he lays down on his belly, legs together, face turned towards his left shoulder, hands behind his backs
Crawl: He kneels then drops to all fours, forearms and lower legs flat on the ground and head lowered, he then crawls to you until his head touches your feet.
Silence: he may not speak until you say so.

Once these commands are learned they will benefit you forever. 



Discipline
As written in this post, rigorously adhering to a schedule of weekly discipline session for a submissive partner is very important.  At a scheduled time each week, you and your partner know that you will have him over your lap, over the back of a chair, or over the edge of the bed for an extended session with the cane or what
ever tool you select. Keep track of disobedience on a notepad if necessary. If your partner displeased you in any way make sure you show it during his discipline session. You know you hit hard enough when the welts of your cane are still visible the day after. As spring is coming a good alternative to a cane is fetching young fresh branches in a nearby park (a so called switch)! Discipline is something that should be inducted from the start and kept after the two month period. The intensity of the discipline should be related to the slaves behavior in such a way that he connects the two.

Chores
I know that most of your partners work but that should not mean he doesn't participate in maintaining the household. Give him a clear schedule of chores to perform on a daily basis (and enforce that he does them!). The example below will cover most of the areas in your house without taking up more then 30-45minutes of his time each workday and a bit more during weekends:

Daily: Wipe down the bathroom sink & toilet, sanitize food preparation areas & fill dishwasher
Monday: Sweep or vacuum high traffic areas
Tuesday: Mopping toilet, bathroom & kitchen floor
Wednesday: Clean kitchen cabinet doors
Thursday: Sweep or vacuum high traffic areas
Friday: Dust living room
Saturday: Mopping toilet, bathroom & kitchen floor & Project day
Sunday: Prepare for the week ahead


During the weekends you could add a more detailed schedule including getting up at a certain time to prepare you breakfast and serve you in bed!

Sex & targets
During these two months sex with your partner apart from taking him with a strap-on is out of the question. Set some targets for yourself and keep to them. For example: make sure to get at least four orgasms a week, visit your favorite chat site twice a week looking for potential lovers, flirt with at least one guy a week etc. I suggest halfway the two months to call your slave to you, make him kneel in front of you and to make him the promise that he will not be allowed to fuck you until another man has taken you. Don't worry, it doesn't matter if that takes a week or a year; there are plenty of alternatives for penetrative sex! The thought that he will not be able to be intimate with his girlfriend/wife until another real man has had you will make him nuts and the thought will make you extremely horny! Ideally you close of the two month program with a date (dinner, movie or more) with another man of course :-).Sites like Badoo are perfect for scoring a date btw!



Feel confident!
This might be the most important of all; you need to feel like a confident, sexy, independent woman who can take on the world. Make sure to read my posts on The importance of dressing (and acting) sexy and the golden rules for a dominant wife if you haven't yet.