My lover just left (yes he spend the night :-) ) so I thought I'd give your girls a few captions for inspiration on this beautiful Sunday morning!
Sunday 22 September 2013
Friday 20 September 2013
My lover is coming over this evening
Havent seen him for almost 2 weeks now
...and I am itching with anticipation :-)
Mark of ownership
A mark of ownership is something special between a woman and her property and is usually done to seal the faith of the submissive man and bind him to his owner. The design is usually something that relates to the name of the woman; I personally would advice to create something around the first letter of your name. For
the submissive partner a mark is extremely symbolic, some see it as a badge of honour as well. It is etched into the sub's flesh, as well as their mind. It is etched into the sub that they are worth the time and effort to be marked and that their body is no longer their own. The marking shows the sub's choice to live as a slave and is there for them to see, unavoidable, always acknowledging their place in the relationship.
The best and most symbolic way to give your partner a mark of ownership is by branding him. Branded marks have the advantage to fade over time and are therefore less permanent then tattoo's. Also the process of branding your own partner and taking him as your property is something highly symbolic in it self.
How to start? Branding can easily be done without risk at home. First you will need a branding iron. An effective way is to make the symbol (let your partner do it) out of flexible electricity wire after a design of your initial you made earlier on your computer. Heat the branding iron and a test a few times on a piece of cart board to give you an indication of how it will turn out.
The secret of a good brand is to heat the wire until it just glows dull red and apply it quickly to the skin for a count of about 2 seconds, no longer. Then immediately apply some ice. This will prevent spreading of the burn and consequent blurring of the mark. Such a brand will take about a week to ten
days to heal completely and should be monitored for infection. Brands will fade over a long time but to my mind they are the most appropriate way to mark a slave. Re-branding the slave every year (on the anniversary of his enslavement say) can become an important and significant ceremony for both you and your partner. It is probably best to brand him where the mark will not be visible when the slave is in normal clothes or swimming trunks. Good areas are: the lower belly just above the cock, the outside of the hip, the inside of the hip and the buttocks.
The images below show a mark right after being made and the same spot 1 year later:
The best and most symbolic way to give your partner a mark of ownership is by branding him. Branded marks have the advantage to fade over time and are therefore less permanent then tattoo's. Also the process of branding your own partner and taking him as your property is something highly symbolic in it self.
The secret of a good brand is to heat the wire until it just glows dull red and apply it quickly to the skin for a count of about 2 seconds, no longer. Then immediately apply some ice. This will prevent spreading of the burn and consequent blurring of the mark. Such a brand will take about a week to ten
days to heal completely and should be monitored for infection. Brands will fade over a long time but to my mind they are the most appropriate way to mark a slave. Re-branding the slave every year (on the anniversary of his enslavement say) can become an important and significant ceremony for both you and your partner. It is probably best to brand him where the mark will not be visible when the slave is in normal clothes or swimming trunks. Good areas are: the lower belly just above the cock, the outside of the hip, the inside of the hip and the buttocks.
The images below show a mark right after being made and the same spot 1 year later:
Questions?
If anyone has any questions for me you can mail me at missnienkeflr@gmail.com.
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xoxo
(Please let me know in your email if I can share your question and my answer on my blog)
xoxo
How to humble your partner
After growing in to the lifestyle you might come at a point where your partner is growing a bit to confident for his role in your relationship. In this article I will try to give you some ideas to implement in your relationship that might counter this effect. I'd advice you to try these pointers for a period of time and see what works for you! All of these pointers evolve around the concept that he is your property and that he is not a real man.
1.) Get him naked! Nothing says 'I am above you' more then you wearing your every day clothes and him being naked. Simply tell him you want him to undress and remain naked when ever he is at home. Be firm about this and try it for at least a month before deciding if it works for you or not. It might be a bit awkward for starters but you'll both get used to it and learn to enjoy it. It's also an easy way to check if it is time for his monthly wax or if he's trimming his pubic hair properly as instructed. Additionally you could require him to wear a nice ribbon around the base of his penis or simply require him to keep his panties on. If you are in to it you could even require him to wear hold up stockings (I love the combination of waxed legs with hold up stockings, a nice pink ribbon and a pink dog collar with fake diamond studs!).
2.) Cage time! I cant tell you enough but locking up your husband at least one evening (2-3h) during workdays and at least 4-6h each weekend will make sure he knows his position. Don't include any playtime with cage time, simply tell him to come to you, lock him up and leave him; no comments and no explanation! You are his owner, he is your slave; there is no need to explain your property why you do a certain thing.
3.) Humiliation shopping! One of my favorites!! Take him to a big cheap shoe store (Dutchies: Bristol, Scapino etc) and make him fit some nice high heels that you picked. Demand that he walks on them for a bit so you can see if they look good on him. Make sure he wears hold up stockings under his pants for a proper fit! Bigger stores are better for this as they often give more privacy. In a large pet store or the pet department of a large department store you can pick out a nice (pink?) dog collar and make him hold them against his neck for you to decide what looks good on him. Another great thing I like to do is visit a department store (Dutchies; V&D or C&A!) and let my partner fit some new women's panties or a (training) bra.
4.) Verbal communication! This might be one of the most important things; verbally let him know that you are his owner or he is not a real man once a day. It could be while you are both watching TV and you simply tell him he is pathetic or by replying with 'thats not how you address your owner slut' when ever he says something remotely inappropriate. Making sure he addresses you with Ma'am or Miss is another way to assert the right hierarchy in your household. Additionally you could require him to ask permission to ask a question ('Miss, may I please ask a question?') instead of just blurting out his foolishness.
5.) Get a lover! The easiest and best way for both of you to acertain the fact he is not a real man is by letting another man in your relationship to satisfy you sexually (something he obviously can't do). Even if you are nervous or have some feelings against this lifestyle (which is normal in this kind of society I guess) try to ease in to it by chatting to otehr guys in a chat box from the safety of your own home and slowly let that evolve in asking someone out for a drink. You'll know when you found the right guy and from that moment on you'll never want it any other way!
1.) Get him naked! Nothing says 'I am above you' more then you wearing your every day clothes and him being naked. Simply tell him you want him to undress and remain naked when ever he is at home. Be firm about this and try it for at least a month before deciding if it works for you or not. It might be a bit awkward for starters but you'll both get used to it and learn to enjoy it. It's also an easy way to check if it is time for his monthly wax or if he's trimming his pubic hair properly as instructed. Additionally you could require him to wear a nice ribbon around the base of his penis or simply require him to keep his panties on. If you are in to it you could even require him to wear hold up stockings (I love the combination of waxed legs with hold up stockings, a nice pink ribbon and a pink dog collar with fake diamond studs!).2.) Cage time! I cant tell you enough but locking up your husband at least one evening (2-3h) during workdays and at least 4-6h each weekend will make sure he knows his position. Don't include any playtime with cage time, simply tell him to come to you, lock him up and leave him; no comments and no explanation! You are his owner, he is your slave; there is no need to explain your property why you do a certain thing.3.) Humiliation shopping! One of my favorites!! Take him to a big cheap shoe store (Dutchies: Bristol, Scapino etc) and make him fit some nice high heels that you picked. Demand that he walks on them for a bit so you can see if they look good on him. Make sure he wears hold up stockings under his pants for a proper fit! Bigger stores are better for this as they often give more privacy. In a large pet store or the pet department of a large department store you can pick out a nice (pink?) dog collar and make him hold them against his neck for you to decide what looks good on him. Another great thing I like to do is visit a department store (Dutchies; V&D or C&A!) and let my partner fit some new women's panties or a (training) bra.4.) Verbal communication! This might be one of the most important things; verbally let him know that you are his owner or he is not a real man once a day. It could be while you are both watching TV and you simply tell him he is pathetic or by replying with 'thats not how you address your owner slut' when ever he says something remotely inappropriate. Making sure he addresses you with Ma'am or Miss is another way to assert the right hierarchy in your household. Additionally you could require him to ask permission to ask a question ('Miss, may I please ask a question?') instead of just blurting out his foolishness.
5.) Get a lover! The easiest and best way for both of you to acertain the fact he is not a real man is by letting another man in your relationship to satisfy you sexually (something he obviously can't do). Even if you are nervous or have some feelings against this lifestyle (which is normal in this kind of society I guess) try to ease in to it by chatting to otehr guys in a chat box from the safety of your own home and slowly let that evolve in asking someone out for a drink. You'll know when you found the right guy and from that moment on you'll never want it any other way!Wednesday 4 September 2013
Spanking: know your implements!
Spankings hurt, that should go without saying, but many people ask which implement hurts worse?
Which leaves bruises? The answer to that is, they ALL can hurt and each implement has the capacity to leave bruises if you strike hard enough over a long period of time. This chart however was designed to try adn help give a side by side comparison of different implements.
For the sake of this chart a base of 6 Swats on a bare bottom at full strenght was used as a base.
Which leaves bruises? The answer to that is, they ALL can hurt and each implement has the capacity to leave bruises if you strike hard enough over a long period of time. This chart however was designed to try adn help give a side by side comparison of different implements.
For the sake of this chart a base of 6 Swats on a bare bottom at full strenght was used as a base.
Monday 2 September 2013
9 commandments for Dominant Women
These commandments should be looked at like guidelines for what is propper behavior for a dominant woman. It is an interesting list for sure ;-).
What do you all think? Any commandments missing here?
1. Have fun. This experience might be for BOTH you and your partner, but paramount to everything else is that YOU have fun. That means if you want new panties, new shoes, a new outfit, or the house cleaned, you shall receive it. Your pleasure, your needs and your wishes come before your partners' own needs. Provide your partner with guidelines to stay within and when your partner steps out of those guidelines CONSISTLY apply punishment.
2. Remind your partner that you'll stay with him forever. We love our partners and we will never leave them and they need to know that. Just because we enjoy meeting our lovers on the weekends, doesnt me'an we don't love our partners more than ever. Maybe even love him more for permitting you to have such experiences.
3. Planning is half the fun and just as submission is a gift to be treasured, domination is a talent to be mastered so get educated and experienced at dominating - the internet (this blog) is a great resource!
4. No secrets. If your lover calls you and tell you how much he wants you, tell your partner. If you meet your lover for a drink (or more), tell your partner. If you experience something special with your lover while your partner isn't present, tell your partner. Our partners like details almost as much as we like having a special boyfriend on the side. Also feel free to call/tex/chat to your lover whenever you want, especially when your partner is near.
5. Preserve yourself for your lover. Dont let your your partner touch you sexually within 3 days prior to meeting your lover. Not only will you preserve your body for your lover, but you will work up sexual tention for your date . Overall you controls your partners' sexual release. You determines when, where and how he can experience an orgasm. Penetrative sex is when you penetrate him, sissies get fucked and are not allowed to fuck - period.
6. Dress sexy and play the part! Wear short dresses, skirts or thing fitting jeans. Do your hair and wear make up when you go out (dont over do it of course). You are hot and you should allow other people to see it. Dressing to please takes more time and work but it will pay off tremendously in how it affects your attitude towards yourself. Also make sure to make plenty of eye contact and smile. Be confident baby!
7. Express your fantasies. Tell your partner your thoughts. Give ideas of wild things like role playing while in public. Go to a bar (away from your home) and pretend your partner is really 'just a friend' and flirt away! Just as important as your fantasies is inquiering about his fantasies.
8. Request gifts from your partner. Even if he is on an allowance he should still buy you gifts such as flowers (and maybe encourage him to save up for something bigger?) He'll also enjoy buying you buying you a nightgown or new panties for your lover to tear off of you ;-). Your partner should ask for your approval before doing anything that effects you both or the household, going anywhere or spending anything (apart from his allowance).
9. Never (NEVER!) settle for just having your partner. You may love him for ever, but you deserve to enjoy other men too. If you break up with your lover, tell your partner to find another one. You will enjoy and deserve the attention of two (or more) men and become to know it as one of the most treasured things in your life.
What do you all think? Any commandments missing here?
1. Have fun. This experience might be for BOTH you and your partner, but paramount to everything else is that YOU have fun. That means if you want new panties, new shoes, a new outfit, or the house cleaned, you shall receive it. Your pleasure, your needs and your wishes come before your partners' own needs. Provide your partner with guidelines to stay within and when your partner steps out of those guidelines CONSISTLY apply punishment.
2. Remind your partner that you'll stay with him forever. We love our partners and we will never leave them and they need to know that. Just because we enjoy meeting our lovers on the weekends, doesnt me'an we don't love our partners more than ever. Maybe even love him more for permitting you to have such experiences.3. Planning is half the fun and just as submission is a gift to be treasured, domination is a talent to be mastered so get educated and experienced at dominating - the internet (this blog) is a great resource!
5. Preserve yourself for your lover. Dont let your your partner touch you sexually within 3 days prior to meeting your lover. Not only will you preserve your body for your lover, but you will work up sexual tention for your date . Overall you controls your partners' sexual release. You determines when, where and how he can experience an orgasm. Penetrative sex is when you penetrate him, sissies get fucked and are not allowed to fuck - period.
6. Dress sexy and play the part! Wear short dresses, skirts or thing fitting jeans. Do your hair and wear make up when you go out (dont over do it of course). You are hot and you should allow other people to see it. Dressing to please takes more time and work but it will pay off tremendously in how it affects your attitude towards yourself. Also make sure to make plenty of eye contact and smile. Be confident baby!
7. Express your fantasies. Tell your partner your thoughts. Give ideas of wild things like role playing while in public. Go to a bar (away from your home) and pretend your partner is really 'just a friend' and flirt away! Just as important as your fantasies is inquiering about his fantasies.
8. Request gifts from your partner. Even if he is on an allowance he should still buy you gifts such as flowers (and maybe encourage him to save up for something bigger?) He'll also enjoy buying you buying you a nightgown or new panties for your lover to tear off of you ;-). Your partner should ask for your approval before doing anything that effects you both or the household, going anywhere or spending anything (apart from his allowance).
9. Never (NEVER!) settle for just having your partner. You may love him for ever, but you deserve to enjoy other men too. If you break up with your lover, tell your partner to find another one. You will enjoy and deserve the attention of two (or more) men and become to know it as one of the most treasured things in your life.
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